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Bob Dylan didn’t really autograph his limited edition book

Bob Dylan didn’t really autograph his limited edition book
Bob Dylan didn’t really autograph his limited edition book

A woman says her relationship with Win Butler, which lasted three years, was “ emotionally abusive, manipulative and toxic “.

A fifth woman accuses Arcade Fire’s Win Butler of being ” emotionally abusive, manipulative and toxic during their three-year relationship, reports pitchfork.

The new allegations, made by a woman using the pseudonym Sabina, come several months after four people accused Butler of sexual misconduct between 2016 and 2020. Three of his accusers said Butler used his notoriety to pressure them to that they have sexual encounters; a fourth said Butler sexually assaulted her twice.

Butler (who has been married to Arcade Fire member Régine Chassagne since 2003) admitted to having extramarital affairs but said all of them were “ granted “.

Sabina, for her part, described her relationship as ” abusive and rooted in a distinct power imbalance: she was 22 when she met Butler, and he was 35; he was a world-renowned musician and she had just left a strict religious group to move to Montreal, where she attended university and worked in a café.

It was a permanent abusive relationshipshe says. Emotionally violent, manipulative, toxic, and using her power dynamics to exploit my body at times that were convenient for her. He met me when I was so vulnerable “.

Sabina claimed she met Butler in 2015 at the coffee shop where she worked, and the two soon started talking and messaging each other. Sabina was dating at the time and said Butler occasionally asked her if she and her boyfriend had already broken up. Eventually, Sabina and Butler kissed while out for drinks one night, an experience she described as ” confusing in a diary of the time. She nevertheless stated that she felt attracted to Butler, and their relationship progressed, eventually becoming sexual.

Echoing some of the allegations made by her previous accusers, Sabina said Win Butler frequently steered their written conversations to ask for explicit photos. In her diary from the time, she expressed her concern at not being ” than a body ” for him.

Sabina admitted that, during their intercourse, she never said ” Nope to Butler and didn’t try to stop him. Because of this, she said Butler likely believed the sex they had was consensual. However, she explained why she felt it was actually more complicated than that and that it was clouded by the power imbalance in their relationship: In general, it was an abusive dynamic. He was really aggressive and I felt like I just had to do what he said. I wasn’t really comfortable with some of the things he asked me to do, but I did them anyway. And that is finally dehumanizing “.

Sabina also described (and provided the evidence) Butler’s frequent messages and requests for sex, as well as the nude photos of himself he sent. In late August 2017 (shortly after Butler canceled a planned DJ gig at an event Sabina had helped organize), Sabina sent Butler a lengthy message discussing some of the challenges she was facing in her life and the fact that his fixation on sex made him feel like ” not even be a person “. Win Butler reportedly replied ” Thanks for the word and then allegedly spent the night telling Sabina that he wanted to see her. At one point he sent two photos, one of which showed him masturbating. “ I just felt like it was really, really disrespectful and scary and disgusting… I felt like this encounter crossed a line that he shouldn’t have crossed, and that was shocking . »

Sabina and Butler continued to see each other on and off for about a year more, with their relationship ending in June 2018. Sabina, however, said she regretted not breaking up after Butler sent those photos. “ If you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship, you feel better telling yourself that it was all for something, that the angry outbursts were mistakes, and that you mean something to the abuser, that you still have value in his eyesshe said. But the only value I ever had for him was performing sex acts whenever he wanted “.

Jon Blisten

Translated by the editor

The article is in French

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